You are NOT Failing
Being at home 24/7 with a 6 month old, 2 year old and 5 year old has been challenging to say the least and leaves me questioning if I am a good mom? Between trying to create fun activities for them, clean the house, keep the baby on a nap schedule, feed all the animals and cook meals…. sometimes I feel like I am failing. But the truth is; I AM NOT.
I asked my kids today what they have loved most about not going anywhere and their answers were “Staying at home and playing with you” and “playing at home”.
Really? That is what makes them happy? It is truly that simple? You mean I don’t need to be stressing about how many time we have reviewed sights words or alphabet sounds? I don’t need to worry about how much screen time they are getting?
If you have been asking yourself these same questions–I HEAR YOU. But seriously, go ask your kids and you might be surprised to learn that they don’t care that there is laundry sitting in the basket needing to be folded or that you forgot to do that really cute craft that you saved on Pinterest.
Stop The Mom Guilt
We moms carry around too much guilt. We feel guilty about the laundry. We feel guilty about the dishes. We feel guilty about how many times we have had drive-thu for dinner this week. We feel guilty about how long its been since the dog had a bath. We feel guilty about every little thing, but I am here to tell you that you are NOT alone and that WE shouldn’t feel this way. So much easier said than done, right?
Honestly I feel like I have more “bad” days than “good” days. What do I mean by “bad”? Days where nothing gets done, nothing gets cleaned, I yell at my kids, and cry in the shower at night because “I must be a bad mom. No other mom yells at their kids as much as I did today. All the other moms are straight up killin’ it. They are cleaning house, homeschooling and doing Pinterest crafts everyday”. However having a “bad” day, doesn’t make me a “bad mom”. I am learning to let go of the mom guilt, let go of the high expectations and enjoy what is. Our kids see us as “the best mom in the world” without stipulations. And mamas, WE ARE. We are the best mom in the world for our kids.